Activity: Checking-In
Remember Ali and Sarah? Help Sarah use Golden Rule #1 Say What You See to check in with Ali.
Hey, sorry I missed your call. So much homework 😫
What’s with you lately? Are you avoiding me?
This might make Ali defensive.
You stuck to the facts and opened up the conversation.
What Do I Say?
Starting the conversation may seem really daunting. That’s ok, we get it. But it’s actually way easier than you’d think. Just tell them what changes you’ve noticed and ask if they’re ok.
Stick to the facts. Don’t judge. Don’t make assumptions. Just say what you see.
For example:
- “I’ve missed you at soccer the past couple weeks. Is everything ok?”
- “You’ve been quieter than usual the past few days. Is there anything you want to talk about?”
- “You’ve been so busy lately, are you taking time to eat? I miss having lunch with you.”
To start a conversation with someone you’re concerned about, it’s essential that you distinguish facts from opinions. Facts are objective truths you can prove. Opinions are subjective and specific to you or a group’s perspective.
Meet Ali and Sarah
Ali (he/him) and Sarah (she/her) are in grade 12 and lately, Ali’s been acting weird. He was late to class three times last week and walked in looking super tired. Ali loves chemistry more than anything. He used to be such a keener, and even joined the Science Club. Lately, he doesn’t seem interested at all. Sarah saw his latest quiz mark and he got a 53% which is a big change from his 80% average last semester. Sarah’s worried. Ali just seems so down. He hasn’t walked home with Sarah in a couple weeks. Sarah thinks he’s avoiding her.
Now let’s practice deciding whether something is a fact or an opinion.
According to Be There, how should you create a safe environment for someone struggling with their mental health?
A classmate is feeling so anxious about an upcoming exam that they’re nauseous and have barely eaten all week. This change is…
Ali joined the science club
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