Activity: Checking-In
Remember Ali and Sarah? Help Sarah use Golden Rule #1 Say What You See to check in with Ali.
Hey, sorry I missed your call. So much homework 😫
What’s with you lately? Are you avoiding me?
This might make Ali defensive.
You stuck to the facts and opened up the conversation.
Facing Resistance
What if it gets really awkward? Yeah, it might. Embrace it. We’ll take the uncomfortable conversation over staying silent, any day of the week.
Say what you see, let them know you care and count this moment as one of the many awkward but worthwhile moments in life – first dates, braces, mistaking a high-five for an elevated handshake, etc.
If they don’t want to talk, don’t take it personally. Despite our best intentions, these can be tough and upsetting conversations. You can’t control someone’s emotions, nor should you try to. If someone is getting upset or starting to panic, take the hint and ease off.
Remember this conversation is about them; go at their pace and validate how they’re feeling (“This is really stressful eh? Do you want to talk about something else?”). Ask them what they need in the moment, and respect that. Maybe they need space, time or would prefer to talk about it somewhere else or with somebody else. That’s ok! Let them know they don’t have to talk right now, and you’re here for them if/when they want to chat. If they are in crisis, call a helpline, 9-1-1 or other emergency service.
According to Be There, how should you create a safe environment for someone struggling with their mental health?
A classmate is feeling so anxious about an upcoming exam that they’re nauseous and have barely eaten all week. This change is…
Ali joined the science club
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